Swollen with age, awkwardly bespectacled, a hairy mess, smudged makeup or none at all, and in a dowdy unflattering outfit. Hello, that’s me.

If there’s anything all these years of moving around has taught me, it would be: finding friends can be easy. And I just might have the recipe for that.

(This doodle was made in 2008 before leaving the US for Switzerland.)

The method requires you to be comfortable with what you are and stand for. And time, definitely have to make time.

Having something in common seems like the obvious thing as well. There is that magical click in one’s head, I believe, when you realise something in common with another and to cause the words “OMG, me too” to be uttered. Then click, we are BFFs 4eva. (4eva!) These something-in-common things could be from something as obvious and neutral such as hobbies and interests to something abstract and intangible such as a shared experience or opinion. In fact the more things in common, the merrier the gel. That’s what I think.

How about those instances where someone tries to introduce you to somebody new: “I think you will like her. She has/does/is [insert something in common] too …”. Note that significant word “too”.

I am hardly your next door extroverted neighbour (hardly), but the internet has opened the doors for me. The ‘Friendly Feature’ interview series* gently attests to that and also made me notice the similar things shared, and how varied the combinations of elements could be.

So, how do you know you will get along with someone?

How did you know we could get along? What do we have in common?

*Not everybody has a blog or wants to be featured.


4 thoughts on “We’ll get along fine — how do you know?

  1. For me usually, good friends care about the same things and see the world in the same way. We care about ideas and usually the arts, there’s usually a trick of humor that’s similar too. I find those kinds of people are rare in my life. Friends can sometimes also be circumstantial, they’re there for a period of time, but not forever and that’s okay too. I find I have more of the latter than the former. I’m an introvert tho’ so I don’t have many friends, just a few good one’s that I’ve known for years.

    1. Yes, you’re right about circumstantial friends. And it sounds like we’re similar in the sense that we keep a few good friends for the long run. The thing for me is, having to pick things up again in a new place can be trying. The initial stages are scouting phases where we suss out who has the same common interests, and from there, hopefully relationships develop deeper that would last for years. It is tough for a social awkward for me, and I think looking at blogs for similar interests has been a big help!

      1. Making friends as an adult is harder, I think. I’ve read others find it difficult too, so it’s not just you. Having to do that over and over again may just add another layer to it. Blogs are a great way to get to know people, they’re like visual and verbal resumes!

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